I don’t think I’m alone in hating decisions. They’re hard. They suck up your life energy. Before I make a decision, I feel like my stomach is going to fall through my asshole. Immediately afterwards, I feel like a wet rag and my brain hurts.
I’m working on getting better at making decisions. I’m meditating, thinking, and trying my best to generally chill the fuck out.
But until then, I’ll be making indecisions. Specifically, indecisions of greatness.
Indecisions of greatness happen when you don’t know what the hell you’re doing, but at least you’re doing something that’s good for yourself. Or at least less bad for yourself than something you might otherwise do.
Example 1. I’m stressed about something that comes up with work. I don’t know what to do. Normally, I might procrastinate and eat a delicious bagel filled with all of my favorite things. Today, I’ll procrastinate by going for 10 minute walk.
Why is this good?: I’m still procrastinating, so I suck. But maybe by channeling my procrastination in a slightly better way, I’ll feel slightly better about myself in general, therefore slightly less anxious, and therefore slightly less likely to continue procrastinating. I’ll probably continue to procrastinate, but at least I’ve improved my odds.
Example 2. I don’t know what’s going on with my life, and I’m sad. Sundays in particular make me sad. I really want to light up a bowl and become one with my couch. Instead, I will make an indecision of greatness. Maybe I’ll still light up a bowl, but I’ll tune into a Continuing Legal Education course instead of succumbing to another season of Hoarders. And maybe I’ll take notes. And maybe I won’t light up that bowl after all.
Why is this good?: I’m still self-medicating and sloppy, but at least I’m not watching Hoarders. I’ll become a better lawyer (and arguably BETTER at being lazy). Maybe that course will help me get better at helping someone else someday. Maybe I’ll forget the whole thing. But if I’m using my sloppy Sunday for even .001% self-improvement, I’m making an indecision of greatness. And that is OK.
Indecisions are not good. But indecisions of greatness are better than indecisions of sorrow. They might not be a step forward, but at least they are not a step backward.
You can’t always be on the ball. Because the ball is round, legs are not good at standing on balls, and learning balance takes practice.